| After this post,
I received the following letter of opposition. The name has been
changed as I never post names of those who write me:
Hello,
I am a white, protestant male, who had a very wholesome American
upbringing. I played baseball and football in High School. During my
senior year I was Homecoming King. I went on to college and received a
degree and Biology and in Chemistry, while active in my community.
I now hold a well paying job at a respectable company. At the same
time, I am also a very active member with the American Red Cross.
Meanwhile, I have two younger brothers who are stationed in Kuwait,
serving in the Marines. Point is, my family and I are the definition
of Americans. I am also a homosexual. The following comments on your
website disturbed me greatly:
a.. Gay-lesbian-bisexual orientation was
associated with increased use of cocaine (and other illegal) drugs'
b.. Gay-lesbian-bisexual youth were more likely to report using
tobacco, marijuana and cocaine before 13 years of age;
c.. Gay-lesbian-bisexual orientation is associated with sexual
intercourse before 13 years of age, sexual intercourse with four or
more partners and sexual contact against one's will.
I will tell you right now, I fought not to be
homosexual, but soon discovered this is who I am. This is how "The
Creator" made me.
I'm not violent, I enjoy life to its fullest, but I had a VERY
difficult time growing up while realizing who I was. This was not a
choice for me, it was part of me.
The statistics mentioned above also reflect that of a demographic of
individuals who are suffering from severe depression.
Please consider that homosexuality is part of human nature that we
must accept. Trust me, I would have "converted my ways" a long time
ago. It would had been a lot easier!!
Please understand that comments like this, on your website,
fundamentally do more harm than good.
Dear Mr. Strong,
first of all I'd like to thank you for writing so eloquently. Most of
my letters are a bit more on the harsh side (smile). Secondly I'd like
to convey that my argument is not with you and your choices. My
argument is with the public education system that insists on promoting
homosexuality to children in school. I have some very dear friends
that are gay, though I haven't seen most of them in a long long time,
only because I lost contact with them over the years.
Mr. Strong, I don't know anything about you or why you've made the
choices that you've made. I know my own experiences though. I've never
been gay, but I've grown an appetite for many sexual preferences that
I don't understand why I like them but I do.
When I came to Jesus, I didn't really understand why God was so
against so many things that I longed for, but once I got to know God
through the Bible and personally through the Holy Spirit, I gave up my
sexual appetites. It was hard. It was incredibly hard at first, and
I've been in a healing stage of my life for a long time now.
I've studied what God has originally planned for us. I've thought
deeply about what relationships could have been if I hadn't had so
many sex partners. Maybe you've only had one sex partner, Mr. Strong,
so you don't understand. But I do. Our innocence, our virgin bodies
were meant to be intimate with one person, a lifelong mate. How I wish
I never discovered all of those so-called "liberating" experiences
that almost every woman in my generation seeks. It defiles our soul,
Mr. Strong, it defiles something that was pure and holy and the
ultimate expression of oneness in what was supposed to be a unique
bonding. Yet in our society, (sigh) do you imagine that there are ever
two true virgins uniting in holiness at the altar? I live in
California, from where I stand are there any virgins left?
I'm just trying to say, I know what it is to think you're in love when
it's not love at all... it's an attempt to find love through lust, and
what we grow lust for in that search, takes us into many frightening
realms, fraught with life shattering consequences such as unplanned
pregnancies, abortions for some, adoption for others, sexual diseases,
AIDS, and in the homosexual arena, as you know the health risks are
irrefutably higher. Meanwhile we degrade ourselves, or at least I did,
"searching for love in all the wrong places."
There is a love that satisfies, Mr. Strong, and it's Jesus Christ.
He's not trying to ruin all our fun, He just knows the high
consequences we will pay when we do the things we do that are against
nature. As gently as I can say this, Mr. Strong, sodomy is not
healthy, nor are many of the sexual practices I participated in and am
healing from emotionally. While I was in that life style, I would have
told you I was as happy as I thought I could be while having the best
sexual affair of my life. But there is so much more than that. And
what I believed I needed so desperately was killing me slowly. I'm
sure that relationship would have ended eventually, only to find the
embrace of yet another warm, handsome, health risk.
God knows the pain of the AIDS victim dying of AIDS. God knows
intimately every tear that is wept, of the victim, of his or her
family, every whisper of agony that is suffered, God feels right along
with us and it breaks His heart. It is not what He had planned for us.
We made a wrong turn, we developed an appetite for something not true.
We were deceived. But God did not create us to suffer. He did not
create us to engage in activities with dire consequences. He created
us to be His. And when we seek Him, He returns to us a part of
ourselves that is whole and free.
I know I'm preaching, I didn't mean to. It's just that... when you
find something so real and healing and true, it's hard not to try to
share it.
You believe that God created you as gay. Did you know that children
are often attracted to both sexes when they are in about kindergarten?
Did you know that there is chemical evidence that gay people respond
in a measurable way to same sex stimulation that heterosexuals don't?
Do you assume, as many will tell you, that it's because you're born
that way? It's not. It's because we condition ourselves to respond to
things that we learn along the way. Did you know that studies show
that the more and deeper we go into various sexual preferences, the
stronger those chemical reactions become and grow? That sin actually
changes our brain chemistry? Because we walk in those areas we
condition the chemical reactions within our brains and hormones. It's
not at all what the manipulated research studies are stating, it's not
what we were born with, it's what we choose to develop.
I did not mean to offend you with my post. I've tried to always write
that it's not the individual homosexual and their choices that I take
issue with, it's the forced indoctrination of it upon our children. I
thank you that you wrote, Mr. Strong, and I pray I have not offended
you further by explaining my position.
I do "accept" you, Mr. Strong, you are a child of God and He loves
you; but I cannot and will not accept public school promoting
homosexuality to children as a natural choice. Children are daring and
curious. Many will try it, and think that just because they've tried
it once, they "are" homosexuals and resign themselves to it. After
suffering so much tragedy in my own life by experimenting in so many
ways, and causing tragedy to many around me, I resolutely oppose
sex-ed in class. My own story on that subject and consequences is on
the link, "I stand alone, will you stand
with me?"
God be with you, Mr. Strong, and I sincerely thank you for writing. I
welcome any more letters or thoughts you may have on the subject.
Sincerely, Jen
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